Low sex drive in men
You are
no longer interested in sex. Though you understand that your wife is a bit
concerned, but it doesn’t bother you too much because she doesn’t speak about
it or mentions it. However, deep within, you want to understand how and why you
have transitioned from a once energetic young chap who could satisfy his
newly-wedded wife in a matter of minutes to a man who no longer yearns to play
the game. Deep inside, you also realize that the longer things go on like this,
the farther apart you and your wife will drift. However, time and time again,
you brush the issue under the carpet.
Men
often don’t express their personal problems, especially those involved with
relationships or sexual in nature, and, therefore, find it difficult to seek help.
This eventually leads to breakdown of their relationships and causes stress,
which further aggravates the problem.
What is low sex drive?
A man
with decreased libido thinks less about sex, loses interest in sexual fantasy
and in sexual activity. Even sexual provocation by sights, words, or touches,
may fail to induce interest. The man, however, often retains the capacity to
have sex. Some men, despite having no desire for sex, continue to engage in
sexual activity in order to satisfy their partners. In such cases, women may
find the excitement completely lacking and might start feeling that their
partners are no longer interested in them.
Different
men have different levels of libidos. This may range from one extreme, (such as
wanting sex everyday) to the other extreme (having sex only once, twice or
thrice a year). Men also have varying levels of satisfaction with their own sex
drives. Therefore, there is no normal range of sexual activity for a couple.
Problems
may arise when the husband’s libido is persistently low, which causes the wife
to remain sexually dissatisfied or unfulfilled or when the man seems to be
dissatisfied with his own level of sex drive. Compatibility between spouses,
including sexual compatibility and sex drive, is essential to maintain healthy
sexual life. While libido may be decreased temporarily by conditions such as
fatigue or anxiety, some men experience low levels of sexual desire all their
lives.
Here we
explore the possible causes of low sex drive in men
Medical causes
¬ Low libido may be caused by many different medical conditions. One of
the most frequent is low levels of testosterone in the body. Apart from
erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, which may induce anxiety and as
a result, decrease your sexual drive, other unrelated conditions (such as
anemia, chronic pain or cardiovascular disease) may also lower your libido.
How to improve your libido:
ü Try to rule out all physical possibilities for your reduced sex drive.
If you have any condition that might be associated with a low libido, consult
your doctor. You could have a medical condition that can be easily remedied or
controlled. Treating the underlying medical condition may help in improving
your sex drive.
Stress
¬ Chronic stress can interfere with the hormones involved in the sexual
response. This may result in low libido. Stress may be induced due to a variety
of factors such as financial, personal, work–related and so on.
How to improve your libido:
ü Reduce stress and manage it more effectively. This can range from
employing stress-relieving techniques such as prayers, meditation and yoga to
delegating more responsibilities to your colleagues and peers, depending upon
the cause of stress. Alternatively, have sex to reduce stress! It is a well-known
fact that sex is a wonderful stress-buster. Still if you suffer with same
problem better to consult a Psychologist to overcome this problems
No time for sex
¬ At some point in your life, you will find yourself in this boat.
Juggling multiple responsibilities of earning and providing to your family,
parenting, keeping the household afloat and discharging social
responsibilities…whew! You find yourself constantly busy. Having packed
schedules daily drains your energy and leaves no time for sex. A busy schedule
also means a busy mind — and having a lot on your mind makes it difficult for
you to relax and "get in the mood”. Sex, may, therefore, take a backseat
and feel like just one more thing on your extremely-long "to-do
list." All of these factors contribute to a lower libido.
How to improve your libido:
ü Prioritize. Remember that sex is an important part of an adult
relationship. Just as we need to find time for ourselves, we also need to find
time for our partners. Designate a night or two a week to spend quality,
romantic time with your wife. You can make it more interesting by bringing
something new to the bedroom occasionally.
Emotional causes
¬ Men generally overlook emotional causes of decreased libido such as
fear, anxiety and depression. When we are afraid, anxious or depressed, sex is
usually the last thing on our minds. Anxiety, fear and depression may stem from
a variety of causes, be they work dilemmas, relationship issues, family woes,
or money problems, but emotional experiences greatly impact our sex drive. On
the contrary, fear and anxiety may occur due to sex itself. This includes the
fear of contracting an STD, of making your partner pregnant or of not being
able to make her conceive.
¬ All these emotional experiences dampen our sex drive and hamper our
chances of having a pleasurable sexual experience.
How to improve your libido:
ü Improving your health and immunity are the primary factors that can
ensure that you are able to tackle these emotional experiences. You can manage
anxiety, fear and depression by meditating, doing yoga, talking to friends or
playing with your kids. When your mind is healthy, there are fewer chances of
problems intruding into your bedroom. However, if you feel that these emotional
experiences are overwhelming you and you cannot cope with them, consult a
expert Psychologist.
Boredom
¬ After being married for few years, some couples can hardly find any
sexual excitement left in their lives. You might also lose interest if your
mate doesn’t take care of her looks, body and behavior.
How to improve your libido:
ü Experiment! Bring back the excitement by trying out stuff that you had
been fantasizing about for some time. Gift your wife sexy dresses, which will
help bring in some spontaneity to the experience. Talk to your partner about
her idea of improving the sexual relationship.
Relationship issues
¬ Having relationship issues with your partner such as unresolved
conflicts, resentment or unexpressed anger can dampen your sexual desire. You
need to deal with relationship issues with your partner if you want to enjoy
sex again.
How to improve your libido:
ü Communicate. Identify the problem and try to find the solution together
before issues explode into huge conflicts. If talking to each other doesn't
work, consult a sex therapist.
Body Image
¬ Some people feel unhappy about their bodies and are shy to expose them
to their partners. Though, we all love and hate some aspects of our bodies, the
key here is to learn to be happy with what you have and feel sexy about it.
How to improve your libido:
ü You can do away with the negative feelings by thinking about the
positive aspects that you have. Even if you are overweight, you can try out
ways to feel sexy by enhancing your other valuable body aspects. If you are
obese, try to shed some weight by getting sex educators suggestion.
Aging
¬ With age, men produce less testosterone, which reduces their sex drive.
Other concomitant factors that may play a role in reduced libidos are
age-associated fear, anxiety, and depression.
How to improve your libido:
ü Testosterone levels may be increased by taking testosterone supplements,
but this should be subsequent to consultation with your doctor. Additionally,
the dosage of testosterone must be carefully monitored, as high levels of this
Hormone can cause depression or other side effects. Long-term safety of
testosterone supplements, especially in elderly men, has also not been
established. However, prior to initiating any medicine to boost your sex drive,
it’s essential to consult your doctor.
Sexual Abuse
¬ If you have been a victim of sexual abuse, you may find it difficult to
have normal physical relations. By taking your own time to heal, being patient
and getting help of friends and counselors, you can overcome this past issue
and resume a normal and healthy sex life. The key here is not to pressurize
yourself or get pressured from others to have sex until you are completely
healed and ready.
Medication
¬ Some common medicines such as those for high blood pressure, depression,
or relieving anxiety can reduce sex drive. Depression can also lower your sex
drive and so can the medicines you take to relieve it. Additionally,
antidepressants can cause sexual dysfunction, such as delay in orgasm,
inability to achieve orgasm or erection or ejaculation. Any of these conditions
can have an adverse affect on your level of desire.
How to improve your libido:
ü Before taking any new medicine, talk to your doctor about the possible
side effects on sexual activity. Also, make a list of all the medicines that
you take and get to know about their side-effects. Talk to your doctor and seek
alternatives to the medicines which seem to be the cause of low sex drive or
sexual dysfunction. Other options may include taking drug holidays, reducing
the dosage or taking antidotes. Some people may benefit from taking supplements
such as Gingko biloba or switching to a different medicine. The most important
thing to remember here is that you should not stop taking any medicine without
first talking to your doctor.
ü The best approach to this problem is to try and identify the cause of
low sex drive in your case. Once you are able to do so, try to eliminate the
cause or seek professional help. Remember, putting in the effort and resolving
problems now will go a long way in living a sexually-fulfilling and blissful
life!
Treatment
Consult a Psychologist if you are prone with Low sex
drive, Homeopathy medicines treatment helps to overcome from male sexual
disorders.
Whom to contact for Low Libido Counseling & Treatment
Dr.Senthil
Kumar Treats many cases of Low Libido, In his medical professional experience
with successful results. Many patients get relief after taking treatment from
Dr.Senthil Kumar. Dr.Senthil Kumar visits Chennai at Vivekanantha
Homeopathy Clinic, Velachery, Chennai 42. To get appointment please call
9786901830, +91 94430 54168 or mail to consult.ur.dr@gmail.com,
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